Instead of focusing on what you want to be, instead focus on who you want to be. The kind of person that you would like to be.
We grow up being asked what we want to do when we are older; our formidable years as a teenager are spent with us trying to not only figure out who we are, but what we are going to do when we leave high school, what we are going to be. We then spend our college years changing majors and really figuring out who we are as people, but so often that discovery revolved around what it is we want to do as adults.
Instead of putting so much focus on to the materialist around yourself, start focusing on the internal aspect of who you are and set your goals on who you want to be.
Is who you want to be someone kind, someone who is generous? Do you want to be the rock of your friendships? The one that people can lean on when they are in need? Would you like to be a more charitable person? Or perhaps a better son, daughter, sibling, parent? Do you want to be someone who is more active in their faith? Someone who is a leader?
Instead of creating goals that will advance you in your career or your external “success” start focusing on the internal success of your being.
Sit down to write out some goals, just like you normally would, but this time focus on yourself as a person. Write down 10-15 goals. Once you have done this, break down each of these goals further. What do you need to do in order to complete each of these?
If you want to be a more charitable person, this might start with you researching different groups that you can volunteer for. Then you might select one and begin volunteering. You can then look at sponsoring a child. Research the programs that give all the money you pay toward the child, instead of only a part of your monthly giving.
You should break down all of your goals this way, starting at your main goal, and breaking them down piece by piece until you are down to the first step you need to take to start your journey towards accomplishment.
Stop asking what you want to be, and start asking who you want to be.